Where are you? From React to Respond!

Where are you? I'm right here! Well, it seems like part of you is missing.

I asked myself this question earlier this morning when thinking about my "come from" or "posture," in life. As it seems, I've lost myself in so many ways, having given my power away to the economy, my phone provider, my clients - even my partner. I have been allowing myself to be an up-and-down roller coaster of how-I-show-up-in-life based on others' moods and circumstances outside of my control.

Perhaps you have had a similar experience? Rather than responding to life from your core – from your truth – you find yourself reacting to life depending out what's going on around you?

I know, for me, growing up this was all to familiar; depending on how mom and dad were feeling determined how I expressed myself and my behavior. In fact, I see how I'm needing to update my story, as I continue to show up in the world, today, as I did if I were "in trouble" as a child.

I have set my life up so that I side-step the possibility of rejection or failure. I recoil into a smaller version of me, because I feel scared that if I showed up in life – just as I am – as my full self that I would scare the pants out of half the world and/or the other half would flinch in utter disgust.

Funny, I know, but consider how you may have played this out in your own life. How have you withheld an important fact or truth your partner should know or avoided facing into specific situations (I.e., calling your local politician or bill collector) to express yourself or clean up any mess you might have created?

Today, I commit to facing into life as it is, feeling any discomfort I may have and take full responsibility for how I show up in life. The classroom is yours as much as it is mine, today I invite you to express yourself fully, even if for 5-minutes. The reward - total satisfaction.

What if...

What if you could have the life of your dreams? What would you do?

What if you already are having the right experience to get you to the "places" you want to "go?"

What if you had a full-ride scholarship, so to say, to enjoying the life of your dreams? What would you be doing with all your time and energy?

To be continued...

Field of Dreams

Recently, I realized my number one wish in life is to play ball with another man in a genuine, conscious, lasting, loving, fun and fulfilling relationship. However, today, I see that I still need to build my field.

In the last year, through many situations, I've been playing on dirt, thinking a good ball game is what I've been doing, but really I've only been distracting myself from building the field of my dreams. I've been playing in a sandlot, wishing my stadium was building itself.

Today, I toss to you: What is it going to take for you to build the field of your dreams? Where have you gotten off track, playing ball in an empty, unbuilt lot? Today, what do you need to do to pick up the shovel and start laying your foundation?

When you build it, they will come. Faith is a good friend to have.

Choice is Power

As you may or may not know, I have been working on my first book since last summer. Nearly complete, this piece of work is a milestone for me as the completion of the book resembles me taking authority for my own independence, both financially and in my vocation as an author, speaker, coach and creative consultant.

I share this with you as I come upon an awareness that will surely reconstruct my world...

I'm 100% responsible for my income, career and success.

Although my "day" job is a fine line between living my genius and supporting others in their career and genius, today I realized, it is time for me to own my own authority around my success, income and choice vocation, for (as you may know) waiting for another person to do it for you (and me) is not being at choice, which is what we're all about here at Funiverse.

Being at choice as to how you experience life. Today, I hope you take your own power back and make it a commitment to being 100% responsible for your success and income:

Today, I __________ commit to being 100% responsible for my income, career and success!

Have A Blast Being Spiritual!

The one question often overlooked with those seeking enlightenment or personal development is "how good can you stand it?" Perhaps, the most important question to be asking is often the last to be addressed and falls between the book shelfs of self-help books. Well, why would one be asking such a question? Let's start there.

What does it mean, "how good can you stand it?" How about this: how good can you stand feeling good and for how long? How good can you stand having fun, without distracting yourself with another serious meditation or a process to fix another spiritual riddle? How about we start our conscious journey off right, go for the goal and whatever happens on the way is just part of the process?

I had this insight, one night, while talking to a fellow seeker of conscious living. We were discussing his intentions for this year (2008) and what he would like to experience as a measurable result by the end. However, he kept mentioning his interest in clearing up anything in the way of his ability to be more spiritual. And my next question, "but why?"

What does being more spiritual do for you? And this question I toss to you dear reader: what does being more anything do for you? What does having more do for you? What is the ultimate result? What is the measurable result you want? From work goals to relationship creation, what is the ultimate goal you want to enjoy?

Before asking yourself such questions, maybe take a Saturday night to go dancing and genuinely have a blast and then ask yourself such questions. Ask from a place of already answering them. If you don't like dancing, then try on the following commitment and see if it brings about some revelation. (Especially, you spiritual seekers!)

I commit to having a blast while enjoying my body and the divine!

Life Purpose is Like a Flowerpot!

Have you ever wondered, "is there a reason why I'm here?" I bet you have and it might be too forward for me to assume such questions have wandered through your mind, but I imagine you have had some version of that question come up at least once in your life.

So, have you got an answer? Have you discovered your life purpose and chosen to live it out? If so, good for you, I love the ripple your making here on the planet! In fact, I would encourage anyone living their purpose to go further and really expand into it this year, maybe even get some good life coaching to assist you in expanding your income doing what you love.

If not, to the question, "are you living your life purpose?," then let's talk for a minute. What's up? I imagine if you're reading this, you're at least out of high school and are in some sort of career job or schooling as a career, but why wouldn't you be investing as much time as you work (or the lack of) on discovering and living your life purpose?

Having been working almost a year with Dream Building Genius Coach, Megan Sillito, I can say that even though I haven't fully landed on dialing in what my life purpose is, I feel more excited about life today, than I did a year ago. Why? Well, just like initial question to this Blog post, the reason I am here is more clear today than ever and only I get to determine that. It is my responsibility to humanity to live my purpose!

I have the first layer of my flowerpot made, talk about going green!

4-Keys to Having Fun (Part 2 - Competence)

(A Special 4-Part Series Exploring the Dynamics of Fun)

Part 2 - Competence

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.” - Joseph Campbell

A satisfied sense of fulfillment fancies itself upon you when you feel competent in and about yourself. When you feel capable and good about who/what you are, you cultivate a space for fun to flourish in your life.

According to Abraham Maslow and his Hierarchy of Needs: “…confidence, competence and achievement only need one person and everyone else is inconsequential to one's own success. It may be noted, however, that many people with low self-esteem will not be able to improve their view of themselves simply by receiving fame, respect, and glory externally, but must first accept themselves internally.”

When you accept yourself and your life, just as it is today, you become a conduit for success and fun to become an active part of your daily adventures. Your willingness to feel competent and get comfortable with the uncomfortabe will help you build trust in yourself and guide you to having fun and feeling good.

Thus, comfortable with yourself = having fun.

Start here: "Am I willing to love and accept myself, today?"